What happens when a tomboy goes on a women’s retreat?
When groups of women start to organize and do events
together, you’ll typically see me running the other way. I’m not sure if it’s my strong masculine
energy, my past experiences dealing with the cattiness that can sometimes
happen with groups of women, or just my enjoyment of hanging with the
boys.
Then I met my friend Nikki who formed Women in Balance (WIB). We share the same affinity for bad assery and
hanging with the guys…..pushing ourselves to the limit in fitness classes,
swearing like sailors, and just getting shit done. I thought well, I love her so I’ll check it
out. And so came another lesson in my
life regarding the need to avoid putting up my wall and give things a chance.
Last week I was a staff member for a WIB retreat in Sedona,
Arizona. The first day or so had its fair share of discomfort as I
really didn’t know these ladies well. As
a staff member, I also wanted to make sure we provided an amazing experience
and put a fair amount of pressure on myself.
What I watched over the course of the next several days will stay with
me forever.
I think the discomfort began to melt (at least for me)
during our first hike to West Fork Canyon.
The conversations flowed freely as we got to know each other amid
towering red cliffs and the soft sandy bottom of the canyon. The hike was long and we stopped about 3/4s
of the way through to check in. I was
met with a resounding “onward” when I asked the ladies if they wanted to turn
back early. I’m sure my smile revealed
my joy in seeing that this group of ladies was as adventurous as I.
By the time we finished that first hike, we were laughing
hysterically, sharing personal stories, and creating a fast bond (seriously the
speed of this connection still has me floored).
What became apparent was that many of the women were dealing
with HUGE and I mean gigantic life transitions.
Career changes, break-ups, marital challenges, self-identity
transformations, and past trauma. The
cracks that each individual came to Sedona with started to meld with the other
women, filling each other up. Hugs, tears,
and tons of smart ass jokes and laughter.
The most special moment for me was in the Boynton Canyon
vortex. After a short but steep hike to
the top, I offered a quick reiki sweep to any of the ladies that wanted
one. I haven’t practiced a ton of reiki
on other people so was slightly nervous in my self-doubt. But I thought, what the hell.
Each woman stood before me open, vulnerable, and
trusting. As I moved my hands a few
inches from their bodies, I sensed different things in each person. My feet were BUZZING which has never happened
before (thank you vortex power). When I
was finished, I was brought to tears. I
felt their beauty and in some cases their pain.
It’s hard to even express how touched I was in that moment. After the reiki experience, a local man
handed us heart shaped rocks and some words of wisdom and we carried on with
our hike.
I noticed the deeper conversations started happening more
frequently as the small talk faded away.
Clusters of women sat together and shared their stories, heartbreak,
jokes, and journeys. There was definitely
some magic at play with tarot card readings that were CRAZY accurate, wildlife
showing up at just the right moment, and finally, Virgo. On the last night I used my star gazing app
to look at the sky. And right above us
was beautiful Virgo. She looked down on us as she held her wheat, representing the new harvest. It felt like she held the new beginnings and
transition that we all
felt from the week.
As we gathered up our things to leave on the last morning, I
found myself welling up with tears (or feeling verklempt hahaha). It was because I was marveling at the beauty
of these humans and our weekend together.
I couldn’t quite process it so my heart was doing it for me.
I realized the importance of having women like this in my
life. It’s healing and it makes me
complete. I’ll always love hanging with
the guys but now I know that my girls will be the ones to build me up piece by
piece.
I thank each of these women for the gift of their time. They displayed such kindness, vulnerability,
grace, open-mindedness, and of course, bad assery. Each of them has a piece of my heart and
Sedona has a piece of my soul.
If you are interested in a Women in Balance retreat, check out
the Taos, New Mexico trip in October 2018 or the Baja, Mexico trip in February
2019.
Awesome. So awesome.
ReplyDeleteBut we can still hang like boys, right? ��
I wouldn’t have it any other way! #balance
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